How to tell if a girl is flirting with you is no easy job. It requires at least, two of these three things: experience, resources, and patience. The first one comes within years, and patience is inside you, no one can teach you that. What we can offer you is a bunch of resources, tricks, signs and many information so you can learn a little bit more about female psychology and find out if she is really into you.
We are totally convinced that women are complicated and that there are many signs that we have to notice in order to be sure when to approach, hug, or kiss her. Whether you are new in the art of seduction or you have been out of the market for some time, this guide about how to know if a girl is flirting with you is all that you need.
How do girls flirt?
Girls, just like boys, have their own techniques about how to attract boys and seduce men. Some of these tricks are very similar to those used by the masculine genre, and others are only used by women. Moreover, we need to understand that there are many kinds of girls and their ways of flirting and signs can be different. In the end, we can differentiate two main kinds of girls when we are flirting:
- Bold girls: intimidating, very confident girls that may scare you
- Shy girls: mysterious girls… you never know what’s going on in their heads
Bold girls are usually direct, her signs are pretty clear and there is a short risk of making a mistake. If she likes you, you will know for sure and she won’t let you go (she is a hunter!); and if she doesn’t fancy you, she will totally ignore and refuse you with no regrets. She can be a bit impertinent and shameless. She is very confident and it may result intimidating for you. It is up to you to follow her!
On the other hand, there are shy girls. You will never be sure exactly if she has a tic in her eye or if she is winking at you. You won’t distinguish if she is laughing with you or at you. So, in terms of flirting, these are the hard ones. You have to approach them in a more careful way, thinking about what you say and what you do.
This may seem a simple division, and you may say that there are many other kinds of girls, but, in the end, they can be classified into these two. If she is very nice and extrovert with everybody, she may become completely shy with you because she likes you. So, she would be in the second category.
And what about girls with a boyfriend or a married woman? Our main advice is that you should forget about her. There are plenty of fish in the sea, why are you trying to get the most difficult one?
Some girls can even try hard to hide their flirting signs to you, so you need to become some kind of Sherlock Holmes –ask your best buddy to be Dr. Watson! Anyways, all girls have some common signs that can tell you if she is flirting with you or not. Let’s take a look!
Main signs that a girl is flirting with you
It may not seem obvious at first –especially if you are not very good at this- that a girl is trying to attract our attention or flirting with us, or just nice, or whatever. Love can blind us a little bit. However, if we take a look at her verbal and corporal language we can tell if she is trying to seduce us and how.
- She looks at you too many times, even if she is at the other side of the room. Is she observing your movements and reactions? Is she looking at you every time you look at her? She is, at least, interested in you, especially if she stops looking when you notice her glance. In this case, if you like her too, you can smile, keep eye contact or raise your eyebrows. These are also signs to take into account.
- She makes jokes to you, but not in a cruel way –that is not flirting, it is known as bullying. A naughty smile and a funny comment about something you have said or done mean that she is flirting a bit with you. You can joke with her as well, but try not to be mean and hurt her feelings!
- She touches you whenever she can. For example, she grabs your arm when she is excited about something, she tickles you from behind, she holds your hand or she touches your back and smile at the same time. If a girl is that physically close to you, it means a lot.
- Social media and apps have totally changed our lifestyles. It is a new way of meeting new people and to communicate with your beloved ones. Some signs that she is flirting with you may be the following:
- She “likes” an old picture of you on Instagram or Facebook (Why is she looking at your pictures of 2009?)
- She sends you a “good morning” or “good night” text several days of the week, if not all. This means you are the first thing that comes to her mind in the morning and the last one she thinks about before going to sleep.
- On the contrary, she may not immediately answer to your texts (and you know she has read them) or she is the first one to finish the conversation. Don’t panic, as she is trying not to look desperate and aiming to increase the mystery and desire.
- She is the first one to start conversations through Whatsapp or Facebook chat, and usually it is just a joke, a silly image or a funny text.
- She posts a picture of you two hanging out!
- She uses a lot of emoticons (emojis) in your conversations, especially the ones with kisses and smiles.
- She makes up awkward excuses to talk to you. For example, she is an excellent student, but she asks for help to study. Or she cannot carry her bag because it is too heavy and she asks you to help her –again, if it is too heavy, why is she bringing all that with her?
How to know if a girl is NOT flirting with you?
Sometimes we can misread and reach a misinterpretation of her signs, which can lead to a fatidic situation where we wrongly act in front of a girl. We don’t want you to suffer that moment, and that is why we reveal you the signs that a girl is flirting with you only in your head, but not in real life.
- If she doesn’t directly look at you when you both are talking –careful, as shy girls are difficult to understand at this point!
- Her body leans on the opposite side, away from you.
- She puts always something between you two, such as her purse or even her hands.
- If she doesn’t laugh at your jokes don’t worry, maybe she is having a bad day (we are all entitled to that, right?). Instead of her laugh, take into account if she talks to you as if she is always in a rush or annoyed, and also if she is mean to you. Definitely not a good sign.
- She touches you, she laughs at you and talks a lot to you… but she does the same with all her friends (girls and boys). She maybe is just an open-minded girl, very extrovert. Her signs are very easy to be misread.
- If she talks to you about other guys that are trying to flirt with her, this may be a twisted technique to get your attention through jealousy. But if she asks for your advice on how to flirt with that boy or she tells you she loves another man, forget about her.
You need to pay attention to the girl you like, even if you are in a noisy pub, in class or at work. Don’t worry if you make some rookie mistakes, as that has happened to all of us. Within time and years, you will learn how to read girls’ signs and find out if a woman in particular is trying to flirt with you.
Today we have given you lots of advice, some of the tips are obvious (but necessary to know) and some of them may surprise you. Believe us, they totally work: we have learned from our previous mistakes as well!