{"id":259,"date":"2016-05-22T10:11:04","date_gmt":"2016-05-22T10:11:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/?p=259"},"modified":"2018-08-28T12:47:37","modified_gmt":"2018-08-28T12:47:37","slug":"how-not-to-be-shy-around-girls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/how-not-to-be-shy-around-girls\/","title":{"rendered":"How Not To Be Shy Around Girls \u2013 The Foolproof Secret To Success"},"content":{"rendered":"

How not to be shy around girls<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 this is a million-dollar question for most men. A good number of men want to strike a conversation with girls, but are too shy to do it. Fortunately,\u00a0the answer is not <\/strong>out of reach. It is possible to overcome shyness and \u2013 contrary to common belief \u2013 it does not take too much effort, either.<\/p>\n

However, before you look up methods that will help you lose your shyness,\u00a0you need to understand causes it<\/strong>. Understanding the underlying reasons will help you eliminate this problem quickly and completely.<\/p>\n

Why Men Feel Shy Around Women \u2013 Top 5 Reasons<\/h2>\n

Shyness in men could be caused by many factors<\/strong>. It is important that these reasons are identified and analyzed, so it becomes easy to counter them. The top 5 reasons are:<\/p>\n

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  1. Past Experience<\/strong>\u2013 \u201cEveryone is the sum total of past experiences\u201d \u2013<\/em>\u00a0<\/em>Kelley Armstrong. Whatever happened in the past molded us in certain ways. Some made us stronger, more vulnerable, more careful, and so on. If the women in your life were always strong and domineering, you might not be comfortable approaching one romantically because of the sub-conscious image about women in your mind.\u00a0This is also true if you were earlier rejected by girls you liked, and the rebuff hurt badly. No one wants to hurt again.<\/li>\n
  2. Fear of Rejection<\/strong>\u2013 this is, perhaps, the biggest reason men shy away from talking to women. Nobody likes rejection \u2013 men, even more, because positive response from women is seen as a macho attribute, while rejection is the attribute for losers. This intensifies when you are around the woman you are attracted to, because rejection from her would devastate you; hence, your fear increases, which in turn can make you shy and awkward around her.<\/li>\n
  3. Inexperience<\/strong>\u2013 we all have been there. When you face something new, you do not know what to do, and you are a little afraid that you might do it wrong and become the butt of other people\u2019s jokes. \u201cWhat should I ask her? How can I start a conversation with her? How can I make her like me<\/em>?\u201d These are all questions you\u2019d like answered before approaching a girl.<\/li>\n
  4. Low Self-Esteem<\/strong>\u2013 \u201cLow self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-brake on<\/em>.\u201d \u2013 Maxwell Maltz. If your self-esteem is low, you\u2019d be afraid to approach women, because you believe they will not find you worth talking to.<\/li>\n
  5. Low Self-Confidence<\/strong>\u2013\u00a0\u201cSuccess is most often achieved by those who don\u2019t know that failure is inevitable.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0<\/em>\u2013 Coco Chanel. Similar to low self-esteem, the feeling you cannot succeed will prevent you from approaching and talking with women.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When you believe you cannot, you actually cannot<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 and this sets a vicious circle of failure.\u00a0Believe in yourself before you do anything<\/strong>, even approaching\/ interacting with women.<\/p>\n

    How Not To Be Shy Around Girls \u2013 Tips and Tricks<\/span><\/h2>\n

    \"how<\/p>\n

    There is no one size fits all remedy you can take and become Superman overnight. So the first thing you need to internalize is there is no miracle step or cure<\/strong>\u00a0that\u2019ll change you from a frog to prince with a kiss. This is a gradual process;<\/strong>\u00a0it requires the three Ps – patience, practice and perseverance.<\/p>\n

    The second thing you need to do \u2013 and perhaps, the most important of all \u2013 is to tell yourself you have decided to get there.\u00a0\u201cThe journey of 1,000 miles starts with a single step.\u201d<\/em>\u00a0\u2013 Lao Tzu. This is your 1,000 step journey; start with that one tiny step, and you are 999 steps closer to your destination. Follow he steps described below and you will get there quick enough:<\/p>\n

    Do it<\/h3>\n

    To know how to behave and talk with women,\u00a0you need to gain experience<\/strong>; and to gain experience, you need to practice. What better way to practice than\u00a0testing your skills with your women friends<\/strong>? Do it. Talk with women.<\/p>\n

    You won\u2019t need all of them linked with you romantically, but just talking with them will put you at ease around them and gradually you will get to know how to start and maintain a conversation with them.<\/p>\n

    The bonus is that you could always ask your (girl)friends\u2019 advice on how to approach the girl of your dreams. They\u2019ll be happy to lend you a helping hand.<\/p>\n

    Know That It\u2019s Normal to Be Shy<\/h3>\n

    Everyone is a little nervous when they do something where the outcome is important to them. An interview will make you nervous, because you want the job; an exam, giving a speech, etc.<\/p>\n

    This is because you want to win, and you don\u2019t know what will come your way or how you will score. It\u2019s normal to be a little apprehensive. Recognize that it is normal to be a little shy around women, because you want them to like you.\u00a0There is nothing wrong with that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Prepare Yourself for \u201cNo\u201d<\/h3>\n

    \u201cIf you expect nothing, you\u2019re apt to be surprised. You\u2019ll get it<\/em>.\u201d \u2013 Malcolm Forbes. When you ask a question \u2013 any question, and that is not only when you ask a woman for a coffee or first date \u2013 be prepared for \u201cNO.\u201d She may say \u201cNO\u201d for many reasons. She could be not-in-the-mood, have a boyfriend, be upset about something, etc. Do not take it personally. You can either try again some other time or look for another girl.<\/p>\n

    Boost Your Self-Esteem<\/h3>\n

    If you suffer from low self-esteem, know that it\u00a0building it takes time<\/strong>.<\/strong> The good news is that, once you identify and accept the problem, the remedy works well and quickly. A few quick steps:<\/p>\n

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    • Talk positively<\/strong>\u00a0to yourself and work hard at eliminating all negative self-talk, such as, \u201cOh! I am an idiot<\/em>\u201d, \u201cI am totally hopeless<\/em>\u201d, \u201cI hate myself<\/em>\u201d, etc. Instead, say \u201cI am wonderful<\/em>\u201d, \u201cI am worthy of love<\/em>\u201d, \u201cI made a mistake. So what. I am gaining experience<\/em>.\u201d Talking positive will gradually push away the negative self-beating thoughts, and you will pick up on the self-esteem.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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      • Dress to kill<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 this does not mean you should wear only designer clothes or a three-piece tux. It means you wear clothes that make you feel good. When you think you look great in your clothes, you automatically feel good, and when you feel good about yourself, your confidence will go up, too.<\/li>\n
      • Learn the skill<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 to some people, it comes naturally. It\u2019s no problem if that doesn\u2019t happen to you. You can learn the skill of talking to a woman. There are plenty of coaching classes on how to approach a woman and win her attention. Most are free and online, so nothing should stop you from learning.<\/li>\n
      • Become an Expert<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 find something you love to do and become the best at that one thing. \u00a0Knowing that you are the best in your field, combined with the pleasure you get by doing something you like, will redefine you. The moment you know and feel it in your bones, you are \u201ca master\u201d \u2013 does not matter at what \u2013 you will become confident and very attractive to women.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        Find Your Dream and Fix Your Life\u2019s Goal<\/h3>\n

        You\u2019ll think this has nothing to do with how not to be shy around girls, but you\u2019re wrong.\u00a0<\/strong>A man who has defined his goal becomes confident and focused<\/strong>. When you feel good about yourself, it will show in the way you talk, walk, and behave. And that confidence is what women find totally irresistible.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

        How not to be shy around girls\u00a0\u2013 this is a million-dollar question for most men. A good number of men want to strike a conversation with girls, but are too shy to do it. Fortunately,\u00a0the answer is not out of reach. It is possible to overcome shyness and \u2013 contrary to common belief \u2013 it does not take too much effort, either. However, before you look up methods that will help you lose your shyness,\u00a0you need to understand causes it. Understanding the underlying reasons will help you eliminate this problem quickly and completely. Why Men Feel Shy Around Women \u2013 <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":270,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nHow Not To Be Shy Around Girls - Amor amargo\u30102026\u3011<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"I\u27a8 Too shy to tell her you like her? 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