{"id":929,"date":"2017-08-08T15:01:14","date_gmt":"2017-08-08T15:01:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/?p=929"},"modified":"2018-08-28T12:47:34","modified_gmt":"2018-08-28T12:47:34","slug":"signs-hes-player","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/signs-hes-player\/","title":{"rendered":"10 signs he\u2019s a player"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you got here, you might have some doubts on <strong>how to know if a guy is a player<\/strong>. You don\u2019t need to worry anymore: here\u2019s a guide on detection any <strong>signs he is\u2026 or not<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<div id=\"toc_container\" class=\"no_bullets\"><p class=\"toc_title\">Contents<\/p><ul class=\"toc_list\"><li><a href=\"#1_There_is_a_lack_of_coherence_between_actions_and_words\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">1<\/span> 1. There is a lack of coherence between actions and words<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#2_He_says_commitment_is_a_trap\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">2<\/span> 2. He says commitment is a trap<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#3_He_never_returns_your_calls_or_texts_except_when_he_is_suddenly_free\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">3<\/span> 3. He never returns your calls or texts\u2026 except when he is suddenly free<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#4_Way_too_much_complimenting\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">4<\/span> 4. Way too much complimenting<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#5_He_doesnt_make_eye_contact\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">5<\/span> 5. He doesn\u2019t make eye contact<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#6_He_doesnt_add_you_in_any_social_network\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">6<\/span> 6. He doesn\u2019t add you in any social network<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#7_He_is_weird_when_you_walk_together_down_the_street\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">7<\/span> 7. He is weird when you walk together down the street<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#8_He_never_talks_about_his_life_or_doesnt_want_you_to_meet_anyone\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">8<\/span> 8. He never talks about his life or doesn\u2019t want you to meet anyone<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#9_He_constantly_interrupts_you_and_avoids_serious_talk\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">9<\/span> 9. He constantly interrupts you and avoids serious talk<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#10_He_pushes_you_to_drink_or_having_sex\"><span class=\"toc_number toc_depth_1\">10<\/span> 10. He pushes you to drink or having sex<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n<h2><span id=\"1_There_is_a_lack_of_coherence_between_actions_and_words\">1. There is a lack of coherence between actions and words<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>It might not be like he <strong>contradicts himself<\/strong> constantly, but if your <strong>intuition<\/strong> whispers there is something wrong<strong>, pay attention<\/strong> to that voice.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-931 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player.jpg\" alt=\"signs he\u2019s a player\" width=\"450\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player.jpg 450w, https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player-24x16.jpg 24w, https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player-36x24.jpg 36w, https:\/\/www.amoramargo.com\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/08\/signs-he\u2019s-a-player-48x32.jpg 48w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we <strong>fool ourselves<\/strong> because we do not want to accept that we made a poor choice. In those cases, we tend to get into a deep <strong>state of denial<\/strong>, and we start seeing him as something similar to a <strong>shiny-armour-knight<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>But that might be happening just in your <strong>imagination<\/strong>. If he says he will be somewhere at some scheduled hour to see you and he just <strong>doesn\u2019t show up<\/strong> behind the most extravagant excuse, that could be ok once.<\/p>\n<p>If, on the other hand, his dog dies, and his momma has an accident, and his long-time-no-seen best friend from college shows up out of the sudden <strong>all in the same week<\/strong>, well, he is most likely a player.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"2_He_says_commitment_is_a_trap\">2. He says commitment is a trap<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Well, <strong>you<\/strong> <strong>shouldn\u2019t need anything else<\/strong> if that is his point of view, especially if he makes it clear on the very first date. There are some rare exceptions to this, but generally speaking there is no way he will prefer commitment just because you are the prettiest and the smartest and the \u2013insert a cool adjective here-est.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, assuring a guy\u2019s level of commitment is <strong>not something that you would guess<\/strong> <strong>immediately<\/strong> just after he says his name. But if he has clear <strong>intentions<\/strong> and they <strong>don\u2019t match<\/strong> <strong>yours<\/strong>, there is no point in taking the effort.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"3_He_never_returns_your_calls_or_texts_except_when_he_is_suddenly_free\">3. He never returns your calls or texts\u2026 except when he is suddenly free<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>That would very much mean that he <strong>ran out of plans<\/strong>, and that <strong>you are his only option left<\/strong>. No one wants to be a second plate, and definitely being the fourth or the fifth is not an alternative here. If this happens <strong>more than twice in a row<\/strong>, I\u2019m sorry, but you need to know that guy is a player.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"4_Way_too_much_complimenting\">4. Way too much complimenting<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If he turns <strong>complimenting into lionizing<\/strong>, his praising is a way of distracting or convincing you. A keeper never needs you to be convinced of anything. If that is his regular behaviour, then that is one of the<strong> signs he\u2019s a player<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"5_He_doesnt_make_eye_contact\">5. He doesn\u2019t make eye contact<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Eye contact means <strong>emotional intensity<\/strong> for the majority of people, and it gets some other people <strong>unconformable<\/strong> as well, particularly if they don\u2019t want to engage in such an emotional state.<\/p>\n<p>Of course you <strong>shouldn\u2019t mistake him being shy<\/strong> for a lack of emotional openness, but if this happens after a few dates, it would mean there is something he hides at the very least. If <strong>sincerity is absent<\/strong> at the beginning, how would you build any trust?<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"6_He_doesnt_add_you_in_any_social_network\">6. He doesn\u2019t add you in any social network<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>That is a <strong>huge red flag<\/strong> when it comes to discovering signs he\u2019s a player. You need to pay attention in those cases, but there are <strong>other variants<\/strong> of this behaviour you need to watch out for as well. First, his <strong>profile is brand new<\/strong> or it has just a few friends or followers. Barley any photos in which he appears all alone, but quite a <strong>bunch of posts in the past months<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>That is something very <strong>suspicious<\/strong>, and it seems almost like that profile was specifically created to fool others or to build up a character or <em>alter-ego<\/em> for the guy. Run as fast as you can far away from that.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"7_He_is_weird_when_you_walk_together_down_the_street\">7. He is weird when you walk together down the street<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Maybe he <strong>doesn\u2019t hold your hand<\/strong> which it is not that bad at the beginning. Actually, it might be a <strong>sign of caution<\/strong>, which is something to appreciate as a sign of maturity.<\/p>\n<p>But, if that is the case and he <strong>never shows any appreciation or cherish<\/strong>, be careful. If he behaves in a way that he <strong>might introduce you as his sister<\/strong> if you encounter any person from his <em>real <\/em>social network, then that goes far beyond feeling insecure with holding hands.<\/p>\n<p>There is room for some <strong>balance<\/strong> between getting engaged at the end of the first date and spending three years without being able to call you <em>sweetheart. <\/em>This is another example that should call your attention if you want to know if a guy is a player.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"8_He_never_talks_about_his_life_or_doesnt_want_you_to_meet_anyone\">8. He never talks about his life or doesn\u2019t want you to meet anyone<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Again, after a few dates it is perfectly normal to <strong>have heard a few familiar names<\/strong> from each one\u2019s professional and personal environments. He might even know about your lovely <strong>relationship with your sister<\/strong> or remember the name of <strong>your cat<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>However, if he just talks about <strong>himself and his virtues \u2013or faults-,<\/strong> or if he desperately tries to <strong>conduct the topic<\/strong> of the conversation through things that are <strong>not related to his personal life<\/strong> by any means, be careful: this is a clear sign he\u2019s a player.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"9_He_constantly_interrupts_you_and_avoids_serious_talk\">9. He constantly interrupts you and avoids serious talk<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>You need to face the fact that <strong>players are around to play.<\/strong> That means that any threat of serious conversation is the kind of talk they do not want to have.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Changing topics is O.K. to a certain extent<\/strong>, put repetitive behaviours like these may imply that he does not care about your opinions or your feelings. A person that gives not a similar value to the <strong>things you care about, <\/strong>or that does not respect your concerns, is clearly someone to be kept far.<\/p>\n<h2><span id=\"10_He_pushes_you_to_drink_or_having_sex\">10. He pushes you to drink or having sex<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Last but not least, you need to consider these two things as a whole. If he tries to persuade you to <strong>drink more than you would want<\/strong> under other circumstances, or if he is constantly referring to having sex, that is likely all he wants.<\/p>\n<p>I hope this helped you to disclosure all the secrets behind how to know if a guy is a player. And remember, <strong>you do not deserve less than what you give. <\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you got here, you might have some doubts on how to know if a guy is a player. You don\u2019t need to worry anymore: here\u2019s a guide on detection any signs he is\u2026 or not. Contents1 1. 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