30 flirty questions to ask a girl

Did you know that you can make a complete stranger fall in love with you in just one hour by asking the right questions? Science proved it in 1997 when the psychologist and expert in relationships field Arthur Aron made an experiment that determined these questions. Today we are going to give you something similar, but instead of using this scientific questionnaire we will take a look at a bunch of more natural and intimate questions to ask a girl you like.

If you want to succeed in the game of love, you need to ask the correct questions. Too intimate may seem intrusive, and too typical can be boring or superficial. None of them will lead that woman to fall in love with you. If your aim is to be the man of her dreams, she needs to feel understood and, moreover, you must understand her –it’s not as difficult as you may think!

Level 1: how would she react in a particular context?

When we think about flirting and seduction, we always think about romantic stuff, cute messages or sweet pick-up lines. But you need to understand that one of the best ways of seducing a girl you like is through fun and imagination. Making her laugh is a MUST.

So, in this first part, we are going to think like we are playing a game. It is a good way to start because it’s easy, it sounds natural for both of you and the most important thing: it will allow you to know better your soon-to-be girlfriend. Let’s take a look!

When was the last time you did something out of your zone of comfort?

You will put her in a situation she may not know how to answer. Why don’t you encourage her to do something bold together?

Which three things would you bring to a deserted island?

This may seem a silly one, but you will know about her values, her intelligence and her sense of humor. Is she bringing her phone or a magic lamp?

If you had three wishes, what would you ask for?

As the previous one, this question will show you how she values things in life: does she want money? Eternal happiness? Immortality? Superpowers?

If you had X-Ray vision glasses, would you use them to see under the clothes?

This one is one of the flirtiest questions to ask a girl among all the others. Don’t mess up! And don’t be shy!

If you could choose a new skill or ability, what would it be and why?

Here you can see what she things she lacks. You can support her in her weaknesses or even better, teach her that new skill –if you can!

If you knew that you only had one year more of life, would you change something about your current life? Why?

Is she enjoying her current life? You are able to know about her level of satisfaction with her social life, her work, and her achievements.

If there was a fire in your house (with all your family and pets in a safe place) and you could go in just one more time to save something, what would it be and why?

Similar to the one of the deserted island, but more specifically about things she already has at home. Will she save her old photos or the new LCD plasma TV?

If you could have dinner with anybody, dead or alive, who would it be?

You will know who she admires the most, or who she hates the most, depending on her answer. Is she an activist? A “believer”? Or did she just choose a deceased loved one?

If aliens arrived at Earth and they chose you to visit their home planet, would you go with them?

This one may not seem as a flirty question, but you can have a very funny conversation about aliens or going out with strangers. Remember, you need to work and improvise with her answers!

If you took me to your favorite restaurant, which one would it be and what will you order?

This is the perfect question to know about her favorite kind of food. You can use this for future dates, or even better, for your anniversary as a couple. You just need to remember it!

Level 2: talk about her past and her present

Once the game is over, we need to know her –maybe she is not as cool as we thought! So it is time to ask her more personal things. You need to be careful and pay attention to little details. For example, if talking about her past makes her uncomfortable, you should stop, talk about other things and leave the topic for the future.


With these 10 flirty questions for her, you will get to know her better, what is her live experience and what she thinks about life in general. You will discover things you would never imagine…

How is the place where you grew up?

This is a good chance to make a difference. Every other guy will ask her where she was born. The answer to that one is pretty straight, just the name of the city probably. If you ask her about the place she grew up as a child and teenager she will talk more about herself and you will show her that you care.

How did you celebrate your 18th birthday?

Was she a wild girl? Did she enjoy partying a lot? With this question, you can get to know indirectly about her friends, ex-boyfriends, which music she used to like (and maybe not anymore), hobbies…

Which was the best summer of your life? How was it?

Similar to the previous one, but you can take a deeper look into family matters or what she enjoys the most in her free time.

When you were a child, what did you imagine you would be as a grown up? Why?

She will immediately smile remembering her childhood dreams –and if you are lucky enough, she will have fulfilled them!

Which movie title would describe your life? Why?

Does she even like movies? Which kind of? Is she imaginative or was this question too nerdy for her?

Which is your greatest achievement in life?

Here you get to know what she values the most in life. Is her achievement related to her work or to her happiness?

Which is your most precious memory? And your most painful memory?

Careful with this one, especially the painful memory.

Do you think that you had a happy childhood?

You need to be prepared to change the subject if she feels weird about this question. Not everybody has a happy childhood and it can make her sad!

Who was your first love?

Luckily it was a long time ago, so he won’t be a rival for you. But you need to know…

Why did you break up with your last boyfriend?

This will explain a lot about how she sees relationships or which mistakes did others do –pay attention to her reaction and answer!

If you were going to get a tattoo, where would it be and what would it be?

This one is good for discovering a secret tattoo she already has!

Level 3: flirty questions to ask a girl over text

We call this level three because if you are looking for flirty questions to ask a woman over text it means that you already have her number. Congratulations! Now, don’t spoil it… Be kind and genuine, be open to her questions as well and establish your strategy to reach her heart.


Which three things I would never imagine about you just by your appearance?

This will give you a complete advantage position among other competitors. It is a tricky question that will give you a lot of information if you do it properly. It is an open question in which audacity will play the main role.

Is there any funny story about you that you haven’t told anyone?

Women love to talk about themselves, but maybe she is shy to talk about something like this. You may break the ice first and explain a funny story about yourself. You will end up laughing, and believe us: if she smiles or laughs, you are in a good way!

Is there something that you always wanted to do? Why haven’t you done it yet?

And why don’t you tell her to do it together?

Do you think humanity is evolving or going backward?

Ok, this may sound deep. And, in fact, it is. But girls also like this kind of questions. Talking about life, humankind, values in life, random situations can lead to very interesting conversations.

Which three things do you think we have in common?

Good one! This is perfect to know if she sees something in common with you. Is she thinking that you are meant to be together?

Is there anything you take too serious to joke about it?

This is good to avoid screwing up with politics, religion or other controversial topics. It can lead to ugly situations if we don’t know what can hurt her!

Do you believe in love at first sight?

If there is a flirty question par excellence, this is it. Play with her answer. You need to be romantic or naughty, depending on the girl!

Which are the most important things that you seek for in your better half?

If her answer is three things you have in common or three things that you think you have, you have her eating out of your hand.

Can you believe that I was watching a movie yesterday and it reminded me of you?

Her curiosity will be immediate: “Which movie?” And then you start having a conversation over text with her.

Do you think that everybody has a soulmate?

Another deep one for you and your potential girlfriend.

Well, there is no magic trick or a scientific formula about this. When we talk about flirty questions to ask a girl you like there are many aspects to work on. And the most important thing is not about the questions in particular but the way of asking them.

You need to sound natural, spontaneous… remember that you are not a cop doing an interrogation or a job interviewer. It is easy to learn, but you will need time and tons of patience.