How many times do you feel attracted to a man and you don’t know if he feels the same? Is he just being nice or does he really desire you? People tend to think that men are easy to know, that they are transparent and much less complicated than women. But, is it really true? Not at all.
If not, why is it so difficult to understand what they feel? How can one girl really know if he is interested in her? Let’s take a closer look at these real 25 signs a guy is interested on you and finally find out if he is interested.
25 Top Signs He Is Interested
You are under his radar (all the time)
You don’t know exactly why, but when he is in the same room, you feel constantly observed. You feel that he is looking at you, even if he keeps a prudential distance between both of you. This means that he is watching over you, that he cares about what are you doing, if you are ok and who are you talking to. Test him and look at him: if he is always keeping an eye on you, he’ll put down his eyes.
A smile never lies
If you are happy with someone, you automatically smile, even if you don’t notice it. It happens the same to men: they smile and keep a positive attitude all the time when they are next to you (if they are interested in you, of course). They know girls love beautiful smiles, and they know how to play that card very well.
He cares a lot for you
He is definitely not your best friend (you may just have met), but he acts like he cares about what is going on with you all the time. If you look sad, he’ll ask the reason why and moreover, he’ll try his best to cheer you up. If you look happy, he will be happy too. This is definitely one of the clearest signs he is interested in you!
He makes any excuse to talk to you
Suddenly, he needs your opinion about a random problem, or he just sends you a chain message through Whatsapp, or he asks “how are you doing?” in Facebook chat (even if you have seen each other that same day). Well, if you don’t see it, we tell you: he wants to be constantly in touch with you. So he will try any possible way to talk with you: messages, e-mails, posts, comments… You’ll see his face in every one of your electronic devices!
His eyes are brighter than ever
It may sound cheesy, but it is scientifically proven that when we are in love, our eyes are brighter. Attraction causes a direct reaction in our tear ducts (yeah, this doesn’t sound that romantic, huh?), and it creates an unusual brightness in our eyes when we are next to THAT person. Look at him and try to discover if his eyes are different when he looks at you.
He shows defensive towards other guys
He might not say anything, but when there are other boys around you, his position will reveal many signs he is interested in you. A typical (and undoubtedly) one is when he puts his hands on his waist, with both elbows pointing outside his body. He will physically protect you from his potential rivals. It is a very natural reaction that many other animals do as well!
He stares at your mouth and eyes
If you are a shy girl, this may feel intimidating, especially if he is very close. But if you are wondering “is he interested in me?” all the time, pay attention to where he looks. Your eyes and mouth are irresistible to him, don’t you see? It is your decision to keep looking at him and keep smiling so he can’t get his eyes off of you.
He cares about his dressing
Yeah, he wants to look amazing to you. His hair will look gorgeous, his clothes are combined and he will care about his hygiene more than ever. This is not very common among boys, as they dress the way they like, not caring too much about colors or shapes. But, you need to know that he wants you to like him, both emotionally and physically!
He slightly leans towards you when he is next to you
The position he has when he is next to you is very important. If he keeps distance and his legs are crossed, he is definitely NOT into you; but if he leans towards you and he keeps short distance, there is no doubt: he is interested in you! The position of our body and non-verbal communication says a lot about how someone feels about another person, so don’t miss it!
He gets a bit jealous when you talk about other boys…
You will notice this very quickly. As soon as you start talking about your other male friends, he will stop smiling and even looking at you. He will wonder how close you are, or whether if you had any especial bound in the past (yes, your ex-boyfriends). Making him a bit jealous is the definite test to see his reaction and confirm he has a crush on you, but don’t play with fire, as you may get burnt! Don’t push it too much!
…and he also tries to make you jealous
This is so typical of both parts… girls make boys jealous, and they do the same the other way round. So if you see him talking and laughing with other girls, just wait and look. If he is trying to make you jealous he will look at you once in a while to make sure you are looking at him or to see your reaction! Are you going to pretend that you are mad so he can see you are interested too?
You, “accidentally”, find him everywhere
You are having some drinks after work in the bar in front of the office and he appears there, accidentally. And then you see him at the shopping mall. And also on your way to school. Or when you are buying groceries (and he lives in the opposite part of the city). What’s going on? Is he a stalker? Is it just a coincidence? No, it is not. Definitely. Cross your fingers and hope he is a nice boy that wants to see you at any cost and not a creepy guy that follows you!
This is a complicated one, as shy boys will never do it, or at least not at first. But you should pay attention if he grabs your arm because a car is coming, or because you may fall (even if there is no chance that you fall down), or if he touches your shoulder to show you something… it doesn’t matter: he is looking for physical contact!
He expresses his feelings (men can talk, too!)
It is very usual to think that girls are always talking talk and men do not express their feelings. However, this is not entirely true, as when a boy feels relaxed and comfortable with a girl, they open his heart and explain his concerns about life, his feelings and emotions.
He compliments you all the time
He likes your dress (and it is the same you are wearing since 2005), he says that you look pretty (and you didn’t even had time to properly brush your hair), he says you are very funny (and you only know childish jokes)… Don’t you see it? He likes you the way you are!
He tries his best to make you laugh
Boys know that the best way to get a girlfriend is to make her laugh and make sure she doesn’t get bored. This is more important than physical appearance or than intelligence. A girl likes to be happy and they know we love having a good time (who doesn’t, anyways?). So he will always be trying to put a smile on your face.
He is a true gentleman (at least, at first)
Yes, this may change within years (if things go further and you are together until the end of times). But he opens the door for you, he makes sure you feel comfortable when you seat, he worries about you, he listens, he is polite… He is a real gentleman! Do you think he is like that with everyone? No way!
He notices little changes in you
You cut a little bit your hair or you are wearing a new summer T-shirt… and nobody notices it except him. And believe us, if a boy is not interested in you, he won’t even notice that your skin color has changed or that you shaved your head. So… what are you waiting for?
Eye contact game
This is a game of seduction. It is up to you if you wanna play it or not. The rules are very easy: who can keep looking to the other without stopping? If besides looking at you, he smiles or makes funny faces, there is no doubt: he is trying to seduce you with his eyes and his sense of humor!
He makes jokes about you
Some girls can find this offensive, but try to think that even if it looks like he is laughing at you the reality is that he is laughing WITH you. Yes, it may seem weird when you are the center of his jokes, but he just tries to make you react to something he is saying. If you look very mad and he hugs you, there is no doubt he wants you a lot!
Babbling: an unmistakable sign
Babbling means nervousness. The same happens with sweating or tremors. If he gets nervous when you talk to him, there is a high chance that he feels intimidated by you –even if you didn’t do anything! This sign of interest in girls is often seen in shy boys, as the bold ones will try to appear brave and not nervous at all.
He touches his hair
This may sound a little girlish but we confirm you that it is NOT a girl thing at all, though it works similarly as when a girl touches her hair. It is an unconscious act to spread pheromones and good smell to the other person, and also a desire to look good at any time!
The way he seats
Is he very close (maybe too much)? Does he put indistinctly his arm behind you while talking? Are his legs pointing towards you and opened? If the answer is YES, there is no doubt: these are true signs a guy is interested on you.
Pay attention to his voice
Normally, boys have a stronger voice than girls. That is biology and we cannot change that. But our tone and volume changes depending on who are we talking to (our boss, our mom or our best friend), right? So if he is interested, his voice will sound deep and low, very “manly”… in the end, very seductive!
He takes off clothes and complements! (What?)
Imagination has no limits, and when a boy has a crush on you or just desires you, he will fantasize a lot, and not only while he is in bed. We are not talking about doing a striptease, of course, that would be very inappropriate (at least in a public space or on your first date!). Unconsciously, he has the desire to undress (and probably yourself too), so you can see little signs of this when he plays with the buttons of his shirt, he loosens his tie a bit, or he takes off his watch from his wrist. Things go away when he is with you!
Want to know more about attracting a man?
You may wonder how I can know so much about this subject, but the truth is that I am no expert. I learned everything from a book they recommended when I tried to love the man in my life and my current partner, Javi.
The book is called "The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave". If you want to know how this book helped me to find and to love the man of my life I recommend that you read my story: Click here to read my story.
I hope all these tips and my story inspire you to get that man that makes you sigh. Lose the fear, follow all these tips and the book and you can do it, I assure you.